The Boyfriend Journal

Friday, May 20, 2005

Boyfriend Problems?

Ok, I have not written in here in a month or so and I have been keeping stats on this page. I have been noticing that the bulk of people who visit here, come here because they have boyfriend problems. So, I am going to offer advice for this one time only, because over time, you learn a lot when you date a lot.

Frequently searched for:

1. Reasons to dump your boyfriend

   If you are looking for a reason, that is reason enough to dump the boyfriend. You aren't interested anymore, so move on and do it, you know that guys would, so why can't a woman do the same?
   If you are the guy who is being dumped, don't dwell, its probably better this way. You didn't mesh or gel well so find sommeone else who does.



2. How to deal with a boyfriend that cheated on you and now the girl had his baby

   Leave, don't deal. If you are searching for a solution on the internet, you obviously care enough that you are worried about him leaving you for the other girl with the baby or you are worried about the situation hampering your relationship. Guess what? The situation already hampered your relationship. Move on and dump him. No one wants to be with someone who cheats on them. If he did it once, he will do it again. Once a cheater always a cheater. Cheating men have issues and problems and that is why they cheat, so go find someone healthy. Plus you don't want to be trapped in the "That's my baby's daddy" triangle. Especially if you do not have kids yourself.



3. Stood up boyfriend

   Good for you. If you are worried about doing this, appologize and see where it goes. If you are just feeling guilty, don't. Chances are he will stand up a girl once in his life too.



4. How long do you give a boyfriend his space?

   Until he decides to call you. Remember that you also had a life before you dated him. Get re-acquainted with it, soon you won't be thinking about his space anymore because you will be enjoying yours. If he never calls you again, oh well, atleast you are re-acquainted with your life. A guy who needs space, needs space, let him have it, don't be clingy or it could mean break up city.



5. I'm 14 and I want a baby but my boyfriend doesn't

   Finish High School, you have plenty of time for babies after you finish school. Your boyfriend probably realizes this too. Fourteen is too young to be popping out babies and you do not want a father-to-be that is not ready for this. At 14 you are not ready for this either. Go live your life and save baby booming for after age 25, because you are going to change a lot by then. What seems like a good idea now, will be regretable later. Babies should not have babies.



6. I found out my boyfriend cheated on me for 6 months with his ex girl

   Slacking on those home-girl investigations, aren't we? Dump him. He is an ass and you are better than that. You deserve better than that, because you are human. Chances are, he will do it again. Once a cheater always a cheater.



7. My boyfriend is obsessed with my ass

   This is a problem? Atleast it isn't someone else's ass that he is obsessed with. But if you don't like it, tell him. If he doesn't get it, leave him, because he is not respecting your body.



8. Girlfriend having problems because boyfriend is 7 years older

   So you two don't see eye to eye. He wants to listen to Billy Idol and you are into JZ. You want to party till 2am and he wants to go to bed early for work in the morning. He wants to take you to a nice dinner and you want to go see your old HS's football game with friends. Take some time to yourself and re-evaluate. Are these problems long term or short term problems? Do they have to do with his personality? You can't change that. Which can you live with and which can you not live with? Picking your battles is key. Is he a good fit for you presently? If he doesn't cut it and he isn't willing to work with you, go find someone more close to your age.



9. When your boyfriend has stopped calling should you call him?

   No. If he wanted to talk to you, he would call you. He isn't that into you. Find someone else who is.



10. Good reasons to move in with your boyfriend

    Moving in is usually a precursor to marriage for most people. If you aren't thinking of that, don't do it. If you can't find the good reasons, don't do it. If you are thinking of marriage, then why don't you do that first? Moving in is just playing house and will be way different than marriage, so why do you want to know that difference? It only makes things harder.



11. Means things you can say to an ex boyfriend

    Let it go. He is an ex-boyfriend, don't waste your time any longer thinking about it.



12. How you will get your boyfriend/girlfriend to smile?

    Tickle them, works like a charm. If they still don't smile. Make them say Swiss, you can't say Swiss without a smile.



13. Parents don't like my boyfriend but they have never met him

    Chances are that they don't like him, because of the way you have been behaving since you have started dating him. That is really what they don't like, is your behavior. If this guy is making you act differently and not in a good way, he is probably not that great and your parents probably have a right not to like him.



14. Find a boyfriend,nice and near me

    Wouldn't we all?

Hope that helps, this concludes the boyfriend advice for today. A lot of this advice is common sense, I know that. However, when you are "in Lo-ove," common sense gets thrown out the window, when it should be heeded.

posted by astrocoz at 10:05 AM | [3] comments

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